two things are hard to notice when they happen: things that move fast photons and things that move slowly like a snail
it is also hard to notice things that are either big like planetary movements or political battles in the global arena, or things that are small like atoms, molecules, micro-expressions, and unspoken words
and because these things are relatively beyond your size and/or speed, it is easy to dismiss them or their effect on you and your life
falling out of love is sometimes a slow process, and because it is so slow, it is easy to dismiss all the signs, usually because they may occur so infrequently or they may be explained away by other factors, losing your life can also happen very slowly, losing your freedom, your happiness, where someone or something takes away only a single thing you love every 6 or so months, and one day you wake up and you’re completely empty and you don’t even know how it happened
achieving or failing to achieve your goals is also another one of those things that happen slowly, a missed opportunity here, a decision to not do something, there, tiny decisions that alone pose no threat to your dreams
but they accumulate, like using a teaspoon to dig into a wall, at first each scrap seems insignificant, but after days, weeks, months of consistently scraping at that wall, the house finally comes down
the ego has a skillful way of stroking your pride and giving you all the reasons you need to justify missing that opportunity, quitting when it gets a little hard, and at the moment, that one decision may mean nothing
but you pan out and look over years, and you see those decisions accumulate, sometimes the image we have in our head about who we are, and how we react to adversity, how passionate or driven we are is not matched by the reality of how decisions
it is in these moments that it is important to have someone who will tell you the truth at the risk of hurting your feelings and upsetting you, someone who will cut the shit and tell you exactly as they see it
the damage to your dreams happens slowly, so slow that you may not notice it, while the ultimate destruction happens so fast that you’re too slow to stop it
similarly, each action is tiny, so tiny that it may seem meaningless, while the goal may be large, so large that you may disregard it as impossible, but this is when you must know that each step matters, every action, “because the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”
Weight
sometimes the reason why some defeat you is not because of inborn talent, it isn’t because of hard work, size, speed, intelligence, connections, experience, or any of those things, or at least those things aren’t the defining factor in them coming out ahead
alcohol is an impulse control inhibiter, it keeps you from being able to rationally and fully assess whether you should be doing something or not, or at least that’s how it behaves in some of us
ever felt the punch of a drunk person?! the weight, the aggression, the force, the entire offloading of their being into that fist
how about a drunk person’s words?! that’s emotion, that weight, that’s an explosion of a dying star, it’s the hysterical strength of a desperate mother, the words of a broken heart or the actions of a desperate man working, speaking, learning to save, support, protect or provide for his mother, his woman, his child, his dreams
that is what drives him, that’s what pushes him, that’s why when he feels tired, lazy, bored, confused, tempted, uninterested, the weight draws him, it pushes him, it pressures him, it is hard to stop working when the completion of that task will put food on the table
you have a dream, but you’re not chasing it or paying attention to it because even if it doesn’t get reached, the outcome will be disappointing but not heartbreaking or life-altering
ask any woman who’s ever gotten dick from a broken man, a guy identity and sense of self-worth is tied to whether or not she soaks the bed, screams his name and curls into his arms, and never wants to leave afterward
similarly, ask any man who’s ever been loved by a woman with daddy issues, a woman whose desperate need to love, nourish and support her man is how she defines whether she deserves love or not
you don’t have that kind of drive because nothing depends on whether you reach that goal or not, you don’t need to attain that goal and no one around you is depending on whether you reach it or not
Two Basic Concepts:
1, are you disregarding the importance of something because it either moves too fast or too slow for you to comprehend or keep up with?! or is it so big or so small that the size is intimidating or deceiving?
2, is there any weight behind what you wanna do, why you wanna do it, and what you seek to achieve?
Voice Of Mechanics 